People Are Not Possessions
Updated: Sep 26, 2021
Episode #8: Welcome to the Coaching Closet, I'm your host Richele. Thank you so much for joining me for this episode. Today, I want to talk to you about people and how we view our relationships, no matter who the person is, and what kind of relationship we have with them. I want to talk to you about how people are not possessions... I think this is where a lot of people go wrong. And although you may not view a person as something that you own, if you really dig down and see the way that you act sometimes or have treated that relationship, many times it goes in that direction and you don't even realize it.
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• But once you start viewing that other person as a possession or someone that you own and you have the right to dominate over or tell them what to do every second or how to do it, then you're crossing over to ownership, it's kind of like a either a Parent-Child relationship or like a Master-Slave ownership. (02:54)
• I think a lot of times, relationships break apart because fear comes in, Oh, you're gonna take what I have. But you can't have people, you can't own people, and any time fear is coming into a relationship, that's when it needs to be checked because it's not love. I don't know if you've heard that. Fear is the opposite of love. But it really is. It is because in the Bible, it says, love drives out all fear. (5:55)
• So if you just own that and know that truth, then you won't be afraid that people are going to desert you, that that person is going to take that person and they're never going to be there for you. Just get out of that fear mentality and loosen your grip on people and because when you do tighten up on them and try to possess them, that does not feel good to that person, and that's when they're going to be uncomfortable and they're going to go. (07:39)
• I think it's a good point just to say that act out of love always, and you won't be in a fair mentality, you won't think that things are going to be taken away. Because if someone wants to go, then they should be free to go. And if you love them in a pure, whole-hearted way, that's just from the heart, they're gonna wanna stay. (08:08)
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