After Divorce - I Created What I Needed
Episode #3: Welcome to the Coaching Closet, I'm your host Richele . Today I want to share with you guys how I got my stuff together after divorce and being alone after 22 years of marriage. One step that I took that made all the difference in the world, and that was just going to tell you a little bit about this story. I had been alone, I guess I'd filed for divorce a year and a half before my divorce had been final about five months. And it was a time in my life where I was extremely lonely. What I really really needed was friends and when I got divorced, it felt like none of them knew what to do with me. So, I created a singles group and it is now one of the most popular singles groups in Houston and it became like my lifeline. I created what I needed and it just so happens, I created what so many other people needed as well. Ready? Let's get started...
• I was on dating apps a lot. I had been seeing someone and then we broke up and I really just had it. Like I was sick of going on first and second dates and then just being done with it. And what I really really needed was friends. And I had been extremely social and very involved with my church and my community with my kids' school. But 99.9% of my friends had been married. (02:02)
• My ex-husband had gotten engaged the month after our divorce was final. So obviously he was moving on and I just, by myself, knowing I'd made the right decision for myself, but not knowing what was next for me. And so I decided to do something about it. For those of you who've ever been on dating up, you might know Bumble, and you may know, or you may not know that this app has a feature called Bumble BFF. And it's where you can look for friends. (02:49)
• I was taking a step. I could have just sat there, you know, and cried for years, but I didn't. I took action and that action created a snowball effect and it was a positive effect. And the Facebook group just grew and grew and grew. And we started having weekly and twice weekly, sometimes three times weekly events. And it started with like 5, 6, 7 people. And then it grew and grew and grew to like 50 people. And a lot of people have said it's changed their life. And I eventually met my now boyfriend of two years in that group. It's changed my life in every way. (05:06)
• Just look for something and take a step and do something that might help. That might be something that will get you what you need, because it could be huge. And it might not just help you because this has helped. I mean, it has like 2,300 people in it now, and we don't let just anyone in, because we're a very classy group and we have to be picky about who we let in the group, but it's helped a lot of people. And they say, this has changed my life. There's a lot of couples that have come out of the group. It's been amazing. So it may just be something that just blesses you, but blesses a lot of other people too. (06:10)
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